This Dad Post: coping skills and unsexytime after childbirth can help you to reframe and redirect your sexual energies into more productive and healthier ways. And here's two anecdotes about how "sex after baby" went wrong or went right when couples were in the trenches of childrearing. I don't know what I want from this apart from to get it all down in one place.
Married M39 to F36 with primary ages kids. I have been feeling extremely alone in my relationship for a while. Intimacy dropped off around the start of Covid and has declined to nothing over the last few years.
Last had sex late 2023 and the time before that was April 2022. Wife started feeling anxious about lots. Talking about intimacy isn't easy, but it's essential.
When I stumbled on the "Dead Bedrooms" subreddit, I was expecting stories of struggles and maybe even some humor to lighten the tone. What I found, though, was a world of open, raw experiences that taught me more about relationships than I could have imagined. Even after that, it may take a while for your sex life to pick up again, but you still gotta put in the work of raising the kid and taking care of the house.
You'll be missing out on some things for sure, but hopefully time with your baby/toddler will make it worth it. I had my DS almost two years ago, during the second lockdown. For the most part it was a positive pregnancy and birth experience (being alone in hospital for 5 days with a baby that wouldn't let me put him down was another story 🥴), 4th trimester was mostly lovely then from 3+ months he slept horrendously.
On August 11, just six days after giving birth, I went to the bathroom and saw a significant amount of blood in the toilet. My postpartum bleeding had nearly stopped, so this was alarming. So it was suggested I post here after I made a couple posts on dead bedrooms and surviving infidelity on reddit.
I'm admittedly going to just paste what I posted on reddit, but i'm looking for advice and i'll answer whatever if there's gaps or something doesn't make sense. 'Dead bedroom' refers to sexual partners having little or no sex. Many factors can contribute to this, including health conditions.
here. The Dead Bedroom Dilemma Often couples seek me out looking to address a common issue they are experiencing a dead bedroom relationship. You may be familiar with the popular Reddit thread "dead bedroom" and by just scrolling for a minute you can see it's a very common issue couples and relationships face.
Physical Reasons for a Loss of Bedroom Intimacy In order for a couple to improve their sexual relationship, they will first have to examine the reasons that led to their dead bedroom and the discrepancies between their desires. If the lack of sexuality in the bedroom has a biological basis, it means taking steps to correct them, Dr. Kingsberg says.