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French text © 2022 Amina Sutter and Amal Tahir

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Library of Congress Control Number: 2023938589

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Original cover design by Johanna Fritz, adapted by Stacy Wakefield Forte

Cover illustration by Anaïs Peyraud, © 2022 Fleurus Editions

Interior design by Johanna Fritz

Preface

AMINA AND AMAL. Taurus and Virgo. Two souls evolving, each walking their own path. And yet they manage to meet, totally by chance: one in Lisbon, the other in Brussels.

Despite the physical distance, their connection is incredibly powerful. Do you know how love at first sight feels? Well, that is exactly what our souls experienced. The first time we talked, everything was obvious, simple, as if our souls already knew each other.

It’s true that we are both earth signs, but in reality, we share so much more than that. Amal is an Aquarius rising and approaches things in a unique way. Her brand is singularity. Amina is an Aries rising and approaches things with determination, grabbing every opportunity that crosses her path. Both of our Moon signs are Gemini. You can imagine that a lot of our video calls made no sense: we talked about everything and anything, and we could only be productive after having chatted about our lives for an hour first.

But what unites us the most is our desire to offer you, the reader, something different: a book mixing astrology and sexuality, which will allow you to go far beyond what you thought possible, and in which, thanks to the stars, you will learn to decipher both yours and your partner’s sexual potential.

Amal

I really wanted to forge a tangible bond between my different hobbies: love and sexuality on one hand, and astrology on the other. I felt that these two worlds were connected, but I wanted to create a project with someone as convinced as me that there was a link between these two fields.

That’s when I met Amina. I had bought myself a birth chart reading, and magic happened.

Amina is as passionate about astrology and sexuality as I am about eating burrata with cherry tomatoes. After many hours spent thinking and trying to understand this connection better, we decided to invite you into our world: deciphering your sexuality through the stars.

In this book, you will get to know me: I’m a perfectionist and a control freak, with a smidgen of eccentricity and Mars in Scorpio (a fact which you will understand later, if you don’t already). This part of myself, as well as my Venus in Libra, led me toward a job investigating different matters of love and sexuality. When I became a neuroscience coach specializing in the fields of love and sexuality, I felt that I was truly combining my passions.

I live in Brussels, but I’m a worldly child. Like my Venus in Libra, I like to flutter around, and I quickly fall in love with a town, then another, and another …

I began my life path by studying to become a midwife, but it quickly stopped working for me: I needed more freedom, more depth.

Because I’m fascinated by human beings and how we function, I naturally turned to neuroscience coaching, spending a year learning and developing my skills. At the same time, I decided I should specialize in love and positive sexuality. I built my company during this time as well.

I also created an Instagram account, @amaltahir, which I use to share my thoughts about love, sex, money … Basically everything I love.

In my daily life, I coach women to help them connect to their inner goddess and reach orgasm. I also write books and host conferences. It’s constant bliss. So now that we’ve gotten to know each other: Welcome, baby!

Astral ID

Rising: Aquarius

Sun: Virgo

Moon: Gemini

Mars: Scorpio

Venus: Libra

Is anyone really surprised that love and sexuality are at the center of my job?

Amina

Entrepreneur, professional astrologer, and creator of an astrology-focused Instagram account and brand, I’m not only passionate about astrology: it runs through my veins. I can’t spend an hour without talking about it, and I unconsciously use every opportunity life offers to analyze it in the prism of astrology.

My mission is to help you rediscover yourself through the stars, so you can finally learn to fully accept and love yourself. As you will notice in these pages, I do so with a touch of humor, because with a Moon in Gemini, you must understand that fun is essential to me—just like the depth of my emotions and my spiritual connection are caused by my Mars (rising planet) in Pisces, in the twelfth House.

Astral ID

Rising: Aries

Sun: Taurus

Moon: Gemini

Mars: Pisces

Venus: Pisces

Is anyone really surprised that I love love?

Introduction

NOW THAT YOU KNOW a little bit more about us, you may be wondering why exactly we decided to write together, how we picked the guiding principles for this project, and in which mindset we birthed this powerful book.

Amina’s Flashback

During our birth chart reading, I could sense that Amal was very excited, and that she had something to tell me. Always the good astrologer, I tried to stay as focused as I could, and I kept explaining to her my interpretation of her birth chart.

At the end of our interview, she expressed her gratitude to me, and described how she felt about my analysis. A big smile curved her lips, and she seamlessly told me that she wanted us to write a book together. I looked at her, wide-eyed, in awe of what she had just suggested.

She kept going: “Yes, I’ve been looking for an astrologer to write a book with me about sex and astrology for about a year. When I stumbled upon your Instagram account a few weeks ago, I immediately knew you were the one, and I booked this reading with you to better feel your energy and how you approach astrology.”

It was crazy, because I knew the Universe had something in store for me: when Amal had booked the meeting, something quite magical happened.

Amal had managed to book a birth chart reading with me, even though I had closed my orders. It was thus impossible to book an appointment with me … When I received the email confirming Amal’s order, I didn’t understand what was happening.

And when I saw her name, I thought I had already seen it somewhere. So, I ran to her Instagram and immediately understood that this wasn’t going to be a simple birth chart reading. The Universe had a surprise for me …

So here I am, at the end of the interview, holding a gift from life in my hands. To be honest, I had never thought about writing a book before. I always thought it wasn’t for me (and I was quite wrong about that!).

And yet, Amal’s offer echoed with a big YES in me. Having a receptive and intuitive nature, I immediately accepted, laughing to myself while thinking about how my studies in literature were finally going to come in handy.

Is This Book Right for You?

This book is for all the people curious about astrology or sexuality. I would even say that it’s simply made for all the people eager to discover new things.

To dive into this book, there is no prerequisite. Whether you’re a novice in astrology, or a confirmed astrology aficionado, we hope you will find something to quench your curiosity and nourish your knowledge about yourself and others. The keyword for us here is fulfillment.

A Little Clarification Before Diving into the Stars

Before we can let you immerse yourself in our book, we would like to clarify a few points.

Astrology is a vast and complex world. This book obviously cannot address all the subtleties of this practice. If you wish to go further, don’t hesitate to read other books with a more general approach to astrology, or that talk about how astrology can be applied to everyday life issues. Astrology is an endless subject, with infinite ramifications. We could talk about it for days, even years. There is always something to say, analyze, and interpret.

This is why it was essential for us in this book to clearly define what we wanted to talk about. And considering the things we were both interested in, we chose to focus first and foremost on love and sex. This book also cannot fully analyze your personal birth chart. For that, you need to go see an astrologer, for there are so many nuances that every birth chart is unique. And more importantly, don’t take everything at face value, because the format forces us to make generalizations. Our goal is that this book will make you want to anchor yourself in your astral chart, so you can draw on its resources.

Furthermore, if you feel like astrology is your life path, and you dream of becoming an astrologer, Amina’s Instagram account is full of information, and she herself is a tutor.

The Itinerary of Our Astral Journey

Now that we have cleared that up, let’s discover the different steps of our journey.

The first part of this book will give you an introduction to astrology, in which Amina will explain the basics, including astrological signs’ descriptions, obviously, but also plenty of other essential information that will help you understand your birth chart.

In the second part, Amal will cover the basics of love and sexuality, because what interests us here is not only that you discover what lies behind your birth chart, but that you also learn things about love and sexuality.

In the third part, Amina will analyze sexuality through the lens of astrology. Thanks to this section, you will know which astrological placements in your birth chart can help you understand your relationship to love and sexuality.

Finally, in the fourth part, Amal will explain which sex toys you can use according to your astrological sign.

Isn’t this a magical program? To fully absorb it, we advise you to keep a little “astro notebook” next to you while you read. You can use it to take notes and do the exercises we’ve slipped into the book.

We both have our Moon in Gemini, so we both love to have fun. Thus, this book will be punctuated with little jokes and anecdotes about the placements, the sole purpose of which is to make astrology seem less austere and to make you laugh, and maybe make your friends laugh, too, if you share some of this at parties.

The organization of this book is designed to allow you to read it in the way that best suits you. You can see it as a journey, taking you from one thing to the next, or you can pick a section according to your whims. While hanging out with friends, for example, you can go directly to the “astrological compatibilities” section to help the people you’re with know themselves better.

Finally, we wanted to specify that we will use the terms “feminine energy” and “masculine energy” throughout this book. However, they absolutely aren’t references to gender, but rather to spiritual concepts from the yin and the yang.

Since this book is written by two feminists of color, we obviously want it to be as inclusive as possible (which is normal in this day and age, right?). That is why whenever we talk about relationships and love, we extend beyond the confines of heteronormativity: you can love whomever you want.

And now we wish you a good reading, beautiful soul.

Amina & Amal