Also a subtag of Right Speech
14 excerpts, 1:08:51 total duration
2. “This is a common scenario: I’m caught in a story of praise and blame. I notice. A voice says, ‘That was very quick. You’re getting good at this.’ I wake up again. ‘Ah, I know you Māra …’ Māra seems to co-opt every moment of awakening to feed the ego. Is there something you can suggest?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Blame and praise] [Māra] [Liberation] [Self-identity view] [Patience] // [Impermanence] [Mindfulness of dhammas] [Not-self] [Aggregates] [Dependent origination] [Knowing itself]
Quote: “It’s really hard to underestimate how important patient endurance is to the practice.”
19. “One day at tea time, a guest at the monastery was sharing her feelings about a coworker who was always upbeat and positive. It irritated this guest because she felt her coworker was not being genuine. I was laughing to myself because at my job I am that big ball of sunshine most of the time, and it can annoy my coworkers. They love talking about the faults of others, and it irritates them when I counter their comments with something positive about ‘their victim.’ But lately, their habits have been rubbing off, and I find myself fault-finding more and more. Any advice about not getting sucked into negativity would be much appreciated.” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Happiness] [Aversion] [Malicious speech] [Blame and praise] // [Drawbacks] [Mindfulness of body]
3. “The worldly winds appear quite distinct from each other, but status and praise seem closely related. Why?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Worldly Conditions] [Blame and praise] [Fame and disrepute]
6. “In conversations that are difficult or where I want to ‘look good,’ I try to stay with the body and watch the thoughts. I am determined to not say something unskillful or selfing, and then Bam!—before I know it, out it comes. It is very humbling.” Answered by Ajahn Cunda. [Right Speech] [Blame and praise] [Mindfulness of body] [Clear comprehension] // [Right Action] [Mindfulness] [Conceit] [Self-identity view] [Sense restraint] [Virtue] [Gladdening the mind]
12. “How does one navigate choices and self-advocacy and also equanimity? I often find myself feeling relatively content yet defaulting slightly to people-pleasing and being quiet to get along.” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Equanimity] [Non-contention] [Blame and praise] // [Discernment]