Intimacy rarely vanishes overnight. It thins out through missed bids for attention, half-finished arguments, long weeks of stress, and the small ways we stop reaching for each other. Most couples who land in my office still love each other. They just feel stuck. I have sat with partners who cannot...
Read more →If you have never sat in a therapist’s office with your partner, it can feel like walking into a room where everyone but you knows the rules. I have spent years in relationship therapy and marriage therapy rooms across Seattle, from compact Ballard offices that hum with traffic noise to quiet...
Read more →Newlyweds are sold a tidy story: once you’ve found each other, the rest unfolds. The truth is more interesting. Early marriage is a threshold. You have momentum from the wedding and a backlog of habits from your single lives. You’re excited, a little raw, and trying to stitch together routines,...
Read more →Seattle has a way of holding complexity. On a clear day the skyline feels carved out of glass, mountains, and water, yet traffic on I-5 can thicken your shoulders by 9 a.m. Many couples arrive in therapy carrying that same duality: love and fatigue, patience and prickliness, hope with a low thrum...
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