7. “What is the role of admonishment? How do we admonish skillfully?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Admonishment/feedback ] [Monastic life] [Saṅgha] // [Right Intention] [Goodwill] [Mentoring] [Respect for elders]
Vinaya: Khandhaka 18.11.14, Khandhaka 18.12.8: Mutual admonishment between teacher and student. [Admonishment/feedback ]
Story: Ajahn Amaro waits a year before giving feedback. [Admonishment/feedback ] [Ajahn Amaro] [Patience]
Quote: “Don’t admonish somebody before the meal.” — Ajahn Chah. [Ajahn Chah] [Admonishment/feedback ]
5. “How does one practice wise restraint in lay life when one has to deal with family, friends, coworkers, and so on? Especially on the level of speech and emotions that one encounters.” Answered by Ajahn Karuṇadhammo. [Sense restraint] [Lay life] [Right Speech] [Emotion] // [Discernment] [Unwholesome Roots] [Appropriate attention] [Continuity of mindfulness] [Mindfulness of body] [Clear comprehension]
Vinaya: Conditions for skillful admonishment in the Buddhist Monastic Code’s discussion of Bhikkhu Saṅghādisesa 8. [Admonishment/feedback]
2. “Regarding the reading from the Udāna about the monks making a loud racket (Ud 3.3), the lynchpin for me was that the Buddha dismissed them by saying, ‘Go away,’ but Yasoja understood the words were said out of sympathy, wanting what’s best for them. It’s very difficult when someone admonishes you out of anger and judgement. How can one be inspired from admonishment rather than becoming defensive maybe even regardless of the other’s intent?” Answered by Ajahn Ñāṇiko. [Buddha/Biography] [Admonishment/feedback ] [Compassion] [Aversion] [Judgementalism] // [Impermanence] [Truth]
Sutta: Dhp 76: Admonishment likened to hidden treasure. [Admonishment/feedback ] [Similes]
Vinaya: Pc 54: Disrespect is to be confessed. [Harsh speech] [Vinaya]