References – Snp 4.11: Quarrels and Disputes 
Discussion of the meaning of papañca in AN 8.30 and various other suttas. [Pāli] [Translation] [Proliferation] [Perception] // [Great disciples] [Liberation] [Conditionality] [Directed thought and evaluation] [Language]
Suttas: Snp 4.11: Kalahavivāda Sutta and DN 21: Sakkapañha Sutta in which papañca precedes thinking.
Reference: Skill in Questions by Ajahn Ṭhānissaro, p. 85.
Suttas: MN 19: Dvedhāvitakka Sutta; MN 20: Vitakkasaṇṭhāna Sutta.
Reference: Concept and Reality in Early Buddhist Thought by Bhikkhu Ñāṇananda
The Four Foundations of Mindfulness [2015], Session 48, Excerpt 1
Reflection by Ajahn Pasanno: Snp 4.11 indicates that arguments, quarrels, tears, anguish, arrogance, and insults come from having preferences. [Conflict] [Conditionality] [Craving] // [Goodwill] [Directed thought and evaluation] [Right Speech]
Reflection: Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication prioritizes compassion. [Nonviolent Communication] [Compassion] [Desire] [Listening]
Right Speech and Living with Ourselves [2016], Session 4, Excerpt 4
“Could you provide some guidance on when to implement the teaching of preferences leading to conflict (Snp 4.11)? It seems we need preferences for wholesome dhammas and to structure our lives so that wholesome dhammas increase.” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Craving] [Conflict ] [Conditionality] [Skillful qualities] // [Conventions] [Self-identity view] [Unskillful qualities] [Proliferation] [Appropriate attention]
Right Speech and Living with Ourselves [2016], Session 4, Excerpt 9
Readings by Ajahn Amaro:
The Island by Ajahn Pasanno and Ajahn Amaro, Chapter 8, pp. 141-142:
Stillness Flowing by Ajahn Jayasaro, pp. 90-91.
Sutta: Snp 4.11 (Venerable H. Saddhatissa translation).